He has found that approaching the Chinese "with dignity and respect facilitated their response to his inquiries and uncovered a wealth of information regarding the status and well being of thousands of political prisoners." Peacebuilding and conflict transformation strongly emphasize the human relationship aspect.
Therefore, for peacebuilding to succeed, the element of respect is essential.
Being respected by important people in our lives growing up teaches us how to be respectful toward others.
Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they’re different from you or you don’t agree with them.
It means to have a regard for other peoples' feelings, listening to people and hearing them, i.e. Even more importantly, respect means treating one with dignity.
Respect is the opposite of humiliation and contempt.Respect plays an important role in a number of ways.The presence of respect can therefore create opportunities.If all these needs had to be subsumed in one word, it might be respect".Respect is the first positive step in building a relationship and relationships are central to conflict transformation. One does not have to like a person or understand his viewpoint to accord him respect.In a class on negotiations and the impact of power, two students in a mock group negotiation exercise willingly walked out of a profitable deal just so that a stronger member of the group could be taught a lesson and be left with nothing.When asked in the debriefing session as to the reason, the response that came was that the man in power was asserting his authority over the less powerful groups and constantly showed an arrogant attitude.And through their help, peacebuilders and mediators can begin to build rapport with the conflicting parties.Contempt and humiliation are the absence of respect, as are a sense of being unheard or not understood. Relationships and contacts that are built without the presence of respect are seldom long term or sustainable. Thus the presence of respect can help transform conflicts, by providing opportunities that did not exist before. " The third side" New York: Penguin, 2000  Lederach. The Little Book of Conflict Transformation  Szulc, Tad. Edited by John Paul Lederach and Janice Moomaw Jenner. At the same time, the absence of respect can lead to conflict. Recognize respect to be a basic human right, treat individuals and states with dignity, and you will receive a more sustainable response. How to talk to a Dictator  The Mac Arthur Fellows Program.  "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten" available online at as a book with the same title written by Robert Fulghum.