(But be sure to redact all but the last four digits of the account number).
Or, if your child is late to school every time your spouse takes her to school, attach school records indicating absences or late arrivals and the dates accompanying them. If your spouse claims that your children are unhappy or afraid of you (an extreme example, I know), attach recent photographs of your kids enjoying time with you.
If your RFO includes a request for child custody and child support, consider the following outline: a. Is there a significant disparity of income and/or assets between the two of you?
Introduction: When were you married, when did you separate, what are your children’s names and ages? Does one spouse have free or low-cost housing that enables him or her to pay more support or receive less?
A declaration is a written statement made under the penalty of perjury.
If you are filing a “Request for Order” (or responding to a “Request for Order”) asking that the Judge enter orders providing you some type of temporary “relief”, you will need to attach a declaration explaining the basis for your request and the facts that support it.Before signing your declaration, you must attest to the facts you stated under the penalty of perjury.Example: “I declare under penalty of perjury under the laws of the State of California that the foregoing is true and correct, and that this declaration was executed on [insert date] at [insert city and state].” (Then sign and date).You may make an attachment to your declaration, including documents that are compelling or relevant to your case (just make sure to refer to them in your declaration).So, for example, if your spouse is claiming that s/he has no liquid funds but you have a (recent) bank statement proving otherwise, attach it!Judges want you to respect your spouse (even if you can’t stand him or her).In fact, if you don’t, it could be a basis for awarding custody to the ‘respectful’ spouse.They are overburdened, tired, have huge caseloads and are pressed for time.They want you to get to the point in a clear, concise way and in your own words.Cathy Meyer is a certified divorce coach, marriage educator, freelance writer, and founding editor of Divorced As a divorce mediator, she provides clients with strategies and resources that enable them to power through a time of adversity.