[italics mine]; for they are impediments to great enterprises, either of virtue or mischief.” ‘Hostage to Fortune’ is the title of Jardine & Stewart’s biography of Bacon (discussed briefly Biographical posts.) The phrase just means that people with spouses and kids are no longer free to choose as they please. Bacon calls it ‘a kind of discipline of humanity” and observes that “single men, though they may be many times more charitable, because their means are less exhaust, yet, on the other side, they are more cruel and hardhearted…
The deal is that couples make their choice here by themselves. The best friends, who have no secrets and nothing to hide away.
If it is a love match, feelings will last for a long time – the duration is measured by the desire of two. But, in fact, children only strengthen the feelings and tighten the family. It is important to realize, that you don`t live by yourself already. Sing, dance in public, do what makes you feel comfortable with your spouse.
If it is marriage of convenience, the result will be visible pretty soon. Finding ways to solve some misunderstandings together is essential for a good marriage. Don’t think that marriage is something difficult and it makes you feel busy all the time and unhappy.
No money, yachts and luxuries cannot replace true passion. Show your sweetheart that she/he will be always interesting for you, discover something new. The most important thing to keep a family, is not to be under some bad influences.